30/pregnant - Need (adult) advice on taking it slow in a new relationship.?

OMG what kind of advice is this? ^^^. if you do want to be selfish, then yes concentrate on what you are doing NOW. and forget him, and the future. hopefully he is smart and sees right through you and does the same. is this what we teach our kids to forget about the future and concentrate on NOW. i missed that in cl. i was always taught to look forward to the future, think about the future, and plan on the future. (shaking my head) if you care about him, even just a little, why wouldn't you accept him in your life. not just yours but hers as well. i'm mean what kind of guy is he? someone they preys on pregnant women?. or is he a friend, like stated above. common lady. stop being soooo SELFISH, and short sighted.